Being shy, quiet and insecure are not traits that are set on stone and can’t be changed no matter what we do. By implementing a few habits and putting in a bit of effort, anyone can learn to be less shy in different situations and with different people. In this article by Anand Mishra Tathastu Information, we will focus on how to not be shy at school and two tips you can put into practice right away.
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1- Start exposing yourself to social situations at school that make you feel anxious:
It’s very likely that, up to now, you’ve been avoiding social situations that caused you uncomfort, made you blush, sweat or stutter. By doing this, you’ve been wiring yourself to feel comfortable in isolation. Unless you break this habit, you will find it very hard to learn how to not be shy at school.
In order to start rewiring your brain, you need to expose yourself to these very same social situations you’ve been avoiding, and learn, little by little, how to deal with the discomfort you feel. Eventually, by practicing exposure, you’ll notice that the anxiety decreases in intensity more and more.
2- Watch your body language:
Your body language can, not only reveal if you are nervous or relaxed in a situation, but it can also influence your mood. In other words, by using “shy body language” you are only reinforcing shyness. By being aware of your body language, you’ll be able to correct it on the spot whenever you notice that you are using gestures or postures that express shyness.
So, what should you be on the lookout for? If you catch yourself looking at the floor when a classmate or teacher is talking to you, force yourself to look up and keep good eye contact. If you notice you are standing hunched, arms folded across your chest or hands in your pockets, immediately stand straight and put your arms by your sides. By taking the corrective measure such as these ones, you’ll notice that you begin to feel less shy as you improve your body language.
